How to handle Rejection.
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Whether it’s a job or a date, everyone ends up getting rejected at some point. And it’s a fact of life: being told ‘no’ hurts. It can be embarrassing and overwhelming. Everyone reacts differently and there are no quick fixes, but here are some basic tips that might help.
Practical steps on dealing with rejection
While time heals your wounds, here are some practical tips on how to deal with rejection and make your recovery period significantly shorter.
- Refuse to Let Rejection Define you.Mentally strong people don't make sweeping generalizations when they're rejected. If one company turns them down for a job, they don't declare themselves incompetent. Or, if they get rejected by a single love interest, they don't conclude they're unlovable. They keep rejection in proper perspective.One person's opinion, or one single incident, should never define who you are. Don't let your self-worth depend upon other people's opinions of you. Just because someone else thinks something about you, doesn't mean it's true.
- Tell yourself it will go. Because it really will. Keep reminding yourself that this is only temporary and you may be even thankful for this experience in the future.
- Engage in physical activities. Play tennis, take a class at a local gym. Physical activity forces us to concentrate outside of ourselves and live in the moment. This is the reason why we feel so alive when we are active, and this is the reason why exercise can be actually addictive. Unlike other addictions, this one is usually positive and beneficial for you.
- Focus outside yourself.Although it might be hard to do right now, avoid blaming and criticizing yourself. Be your own friend. If you catch yourself analyzing your past or yourself, gently draw attention away to something external.
- Learn something new.Learning a new skill can be challenging; in addition to obvious benefits, it helps us heal by keeping us busy and focused. To make things even better, learning a new skill may help discover new opportunities or meet new people.
- Travel. New places are always fun to explore and, just like suggestions above, new places will distract our attention from negative thoughts and add excitement to your life. In Swahili for the Broken-hearted Peter Moore travels all the way from Cairo to Cape Town to get over his breakup, which resulted in an epic adventure and… a book!
- Meet new people. This goes without saying. When you meet someone new, you want to put your best foot forward, and this will force you to pick yourself up. In addition, new people have new exciting stories to tell which helps you stay distracted.
- Consider online counseling.We all know professional counseling works, but having to book an appointment and then actually go to the clinic may seem overwhelming. You might be not in a good shape, and you might fear that by going there, you’ll embarrass yourself in front of strangers. Online counseling offers all benefits of traditional counseling without anxiety associated with going to see your therapist.
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What not to do
While a new relationship will definitely help to get over the past quicker, it is not a healthy way of dealing with rejection. Not only this might be bad for you, you will be potentially hurting other person’s feelings. Give yourself time. Don’t start a new relationship when you still have unfinished emotional bupsychologia.
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