Why do I still love my ex even when we are in new relationships?

Why do you still love your ex even though you’re both in new relationships?

The reasons could include, but not be limited to

:

1. True Love - You had a true heart connection. Sometimes a relationship is true love, but other issues get in the way and cause it to end, even though the love lives on.

2. Addiction - If a love relationship triggers addictive behaviors, it can be just as difficult to get over as stopping smoking, drinking or other addictive situations.

3. Comfort Levels - People who are together for any amount of time develop their own rhythm and comfort. it can feel uncomfortable to be in a new space with a different person. Maybe you long for the familiar lifestyle you had before?

4. Regrets -  Sometimes relationships ends with unfinished business or regrets. Those can trigger lots of thoughts about the ex-partner.

5. Grief - Letting go of anything ranging from a partner to a job or possessions can trigger a period of grief where feelings of loss and absence create strong feelings for some.

6. Lost friendships - Some relationships are built on true friendship. Even if the relationship doesn’t work on other levels, it can sometimes be hard to say good-bye to a very good friend.

7. Eternal Hope - Maybe deep down inside you hope that you will have another chance and for whatever reason you can’t let go.

8. Dissatisfaction - It’s possible your new partner is lacking in some of the qualities you felt your ex had.

9. doubts - Maybe it was your choice to move on, or the choice of your ex, or mutual. However, sometimes when big decisions are made, doubt might hang in the balance for awhile.

10. Jealousy - Sometimes when an ex moves on, even if we don’t want them for ourselves, we don’t want someone else to have them. That definitely is a very common way to feel.

11. Transference - Sometimes when our lives don’t seem to be going the way we want, we may focus our attention on some outside event which we transfer blame to.

Maybe somewhere deep inside you question if your life would be different if you were still with your ex.

Or maybe you’re just having a hard time letting go, completely moving on or maybe you fear if you do, you will have to really focus on your new person.

************************************By Karen Marie Shelton.